I'm a wife dealing with her husband's addiction to pornography. I hope to be a resource for wives (and family members) dealing with similar struggles. Please join in the conversation and leave comments--even if you are here for curiosity's sake and are just learning about this kind of struggle! You can read my story here and the 4 things I think every addict's wife should know here.

Friday, January 25, 2013

Today's post on Ask Mormon Girl

I'm mostly posting this as a place holder for readers from today's Ask Mormon Girl post about pornography in case they venture this way.

I actually enjoy a good discussion on pornography and the church. I am of the opinion that there is so much more damaging about pornography than the actual viewing and masturbation. Psychological issues and addiction issues (both to the viewers and the women in the porn) as well as the terrible association this industry has with sex trafficking and worker's rights. Don't want to believe me? Just know that my line of work is with Human Rights Education at a very well known private university. I'm not just saying this because I'm "religious."

I know of a lot of people who like to use the cop-out "reverse psychology" answer to the pornography problem: men look at porn because they are told not to by the church and their entire culture.

News flash: The church and my religious culture tell me not to beat my kids. I don't have this secret desire to beat my kids. Too harsh of a comparison? Okay. I don't have any desire to smoke, or cheat on my husband, or steal from my favorite clothing store, or shamelessly flirt with the cute guy at... wait, do I know any cute guys? I need to get out more. ;)

Anyway, my point is that this topic is so so so complex. The underlying reasons for why certain men look at and/or are addicted to pornography are complicated and convoluted.

I plan to post soon about these topics as well as touch on the questions posed in today's Ask Mormon Girl's post, including the fact that I knowingly married a guy who has struggled with porn.

Unfortunately, I'm at work today and we are headed away for the weekend (with no internet access).

So if you are interested in these discussions, bookmark this page and come back next week.


  1. I also found the conversation on "Ask Mormon Girl" interesting. Good post. Thank you. I will be sharing a few thoughts & resources on my blog soon that you might find helpful. Please stop by sometime. Smiles, Kandee http://findingfrecklesblog.blogspot.com

  2. It was fascinating reading. I especially liked what the bishop had to say about there being two kinds of addicts, one type which in his experience always progressed to adultery, and the other which did not, and what the characteristics of each type were.

  3. So glad you and Jane commented! I hope the woman who wrote in will choose to find this wonderful community. You ladies rock.

  4. I so rarely, rarely log into my 'anonymous' acocunt -- but I did today, and I wanted to comment on everyone's blog how much I just love and adore you all! :-)

    Did you see CJane posted today about porn . . . I linked in the comments back to the forum . . . I think it can be so hard to see these online conversations when they're dismissive to what we're going through, but at least the conversations are happening. :-)