|A Blog About Love|
Well consider this. They both went through separate and painful divorces before meeting each other. Each was left by their spouse. They have gone through difficult things in their lives and have learned how to be happy despite their trials. Even happy in their trials (they struggle with infertility as well). They write in order to help other people find the same happiness.
Now do you want to read what they have to say?
Danny's latest post is about giving what we want to receive. The golden rule. Or even trying to give what we want most in life even if we think we don't have it to give (love, confidence, kindness, forgiveness, trust). What I love most about his post is that he says that whatever you send out into the world will come back to you. He doesn't say that your spouse will suddenly be perfect if you're perfect to your spouse. He says that what you send out will come back to you--some how, some time, in some way.
And I believe that's true.
Do you feel capable of giving at this point in your life? When you feel like so much has been taken from you? When all you want is for your husband to love you and only you and be honest with you and leave everything worldly behind just to keep you, do you feel capable of providing others with what you want? Even him? Being kind to him? Supporting him? Being loyal to him even when he isn't being loyal to you? (Thanks "R" for talking about being loyal.)
I think this is a hard question. There are so many factors involved. At what point are we being too hard on our husbands? At what point are we being pushovers and enabling our husbands to keep doing what they're doing? Can we show full love and compassion without being a pushover?