This past weekend I went on a long run with one of my favorite people. She is seriously the BEST conversationalist. If you ever need to run a ton of miles, take her along. In fact, maybe I'll rent her out. Any takers?
Among other topics, we talked about this blog community. We talked about it for probably 4 or 5 miles (when you're running, you track everything in miles). She brought up the topic of respect, or, more specifically, disrespect. The conversation was riveting, even after 12 miles of running.
So here is my question to you: Do you believe that your husband is disrespecting you through his actions?
Have you detached yourself so far from his problem that you don't believe it has anything to do with you, therefore whether he is disrespecting you isn't even a factor in the equation?
Do you believe his actions disrespect you but that it is more of a side effect and not an intention?
Does the fact that he suffers from an addiction remove the discussion of disrespect?
Or do you believe that he is absolutely disrespecting you?
If so, how do you reconcile standing by someone's side as they blatantly disrespect you?
We talked a lot about trusting your gut when it comes to standing by someone with addiction. I've heard many women who have left their partners say that when it was time to leave, they KNEW it was time to leave. The question of when to stop fighting and throw in the towel has come up many times, and the response from those who know is that you trust your gut. If your gut says to stay, then you stay. If your gut says to leave, then it is time.
So do you think husbands who look at pornography/lie to their wives/have affairs/indulge in prostitution are disrespecting their wives? And, if so, is it ridiculous for women to stay and "work on their marriage" while being so disrespected? Are they just letting someone walk all over them?
I know this will evoke many "well, it depends on the situation" responses, and I completely agree, but I'm interested in hearing your thoughts.